Chakra imbalances can lead to various symptoms, including physical pain, emotional distress, and spiritual disconnection. Recognizing when your chakras are blocked is crucial for achieving spiritual and emotional wellbeing. When the root chakra is blocked, you may experience anxiety, lack of confidence, suppressed emotions, anger, oversensitivity, fear of rejection, loss of direction, lack of drive, anxiety, and worry.
To identify if your root chakra is blocked, you can feel stuck in life, stressed, unsettled, inflexible, and inflexible. Possible symptoms of an imbalance of the heart chakra include jealousy, holding grudges, grief, hatred, feelings of unworthiness, fear of betrayal, and physical heart problems. Gratitude practices are healing for the heart chakra.
Emotional imbalances can include issues of the heart, over-loving to the point of suffocation, jealousy, abandonment, anger, bitterness, loneliness, holding grudges against loved ones, jealousy, overly defensiveness, and fear of intimacy. When the chakra is underbalanced, you may feel emotionally closed off, fear of betrayal, anger, bitterness, isolation, and a lack of empathy. If it’s overbalanced, you may experience negative qualities such as envy, desire, jealousy, rage, and greed blocking the energy so that it again becomes blocked.
In summary, chakra imbalances can lead to a range of symptoms, including physical pain, emotional distress, and spiritual disconnection. Recognizing and addressing these imbalances can help you find the path to spiritual and emotional wellbeing.
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Which chakra holds sadness?
The Heart Chakra is a vibration that aligns with your feelings, and if you are feeling sad, it is too aligned to sadness. You don’t have to resist it and can learn from it. Emotions come and go, but staying with them and spinning your Heart Chakra wheel with your emotional touchstone will keep spinning. Rest for a moment and let the momentum of your feeling slow down. Then, choose to stay sad or catch the wave of another emotion. Your inner being is well and wants you to be well, so you can trust that you will receive a different feeling.
What is the core reason for jealousy?
Jealousy is often rooted in insecurities and fears, such as fear of oversimplification, inadequacy, abandonment, replacement, and judgment. Recognizing these fears can help manage jealous behaviors better. Jealousy can be a sign of emotional insecurity, which can have harmful effects on mental health. Acknowledging these insecurities is crucial for healthier emotional management. When experiencing jealous feelings, it is essential to communicate them non-confrontationally to clarify feelings and address potential issues before they become overwhelming.
This approach also fosters a healthier connection between people, fostering understanding, trust, and respect. By recognizing and addressing these feelings, we can better manage our emotions and create healthier relationships.
What chakra is feeling unloved?
The fourth chakra, the heart chakra, can lead to feelings of loneliness, isolation, and depression. People often seek love from others to fill this emptiness, but this can lead to long-term feelings of loneliness and isolation. To change this, one may need to develop stronger heart chakra energy and cultivate a loving connection with themselves. The heart chakra is located in the center of the chest and is the source of love, compassion, empathy, forgiveness, acceptance, and transformation.
When open and strong, it allows for balanced love giving and receiving, positive character traits, and happiness. Conversely, imbalanced heart chakra energy can cause emotional instability, depression, and physical heart problems.
Which chakra causes loneliness?
The fourth chakra, the heart chakra, can lead to feelings of loneliness, isolation, and depression. People often seek love from others to fill this emptiness, but this can lead to long-term feelings of loneliness and isolation. To change this, one may need to develop stronger heart chakra energy and cultivate a loving connection with themselves. The heart chakra is located in the center of the chest and is the source of love, compassion, empathy, forgiveness, acceptance, and transformation.
When open and strong, it allows for balanced love giving and receiving, positive character traits, and happiness. Conversely, imbalanced heart chakra energy can cause emotional instability, depression, and physical heart problems.
Which chakra is blocked by guilt?
The sacral chakra, located above the base of the spine, represents pleasure, desire, creativity, sexuality, procreation, and well-being. Its color is orange. Blocking this chakra can lead to compulsive behavior, emotional issues, and sexual guilt. The solar plexus chakra, located near the navel, is associated with anger, joy, laughter, and personal power. Its color is yellow. Blocking this chakra may result in a lack of direction, frustration, anger, or victimization.
The heart chakra, the center of love, brings compassion, peace, and harmony. Its color is green. Blocking this chakra may manifest as immune system, heart, or lung issues or a lack of compassion, inhumanity, or unethical behavior.
Which chakra is blocked by emotions?
The Sacral chakra, a key energy center in Eastern traditions, is believed to be interconnected with emotional and physical health. However, research on the role of chakras in anxiety management is limited. Chakras, wheel-like energy centers in the body, affect physiological and emotional functions, and are believed to be influenced by emotions, lifestyle choices, and thoughts. Blocking the Sacral chakra can lead to unstable emotions and imbalanced relationships. Therefore, understanding the role of chakras in anxiety management is crucial for overall well-being.
What emotion is at the root of jealousy?
Jealousy is a complex emotion that can range from suspicion to rage to fear to humiliation, and affects people of all ages, genders, and sexual orientations. It is most often triggered when a person perceives a threat to a valued relationship from a third party, whether real or imagined. Jealousy is often associated with romantic relationships, but can occur in various human relationships, from siblings competing for attention to coworkers trying to impress a respected boss. Dealing with jealousy and envy are essential aspects of managing this emotion.
Which chakra is responsible for insecurity?
The Muladhara, or Root Chakra, is a vital energy center in the human body that regulates physical, mental, and spiritual well-being. It is located at the base of the spine and represents grounding, stability, and survival. When this chakra is imbalanced, feelings of insecurity, fear, and anxiety may arise. Chakras are often described as spinning wheels or vortices of energy centers located along the spine, starting from the base and ascending to the crown of the head. There are over 114 chakras in our body, but seven primary chakras are widely acknowledged, each associated with specific physical, emotional, and physiological aspects of human existence.
In the realm of holistic healing and spiritual practices, the concept of chakras has captivated many individuals seeking harmony and balance in their lives. The seven primary chakras are:
- Mudhara: Located at the base of the spine, it represents grounding, security, and survival.
- Mudhara: Located at the base of the spine, it represents insecurity, fear, and anxiety.
Which chakra is related to overthinking?
The Third Eye Chakra, located above the brow, is responsible for intuition, wisdom, spiritual connection, imagination, and clarity. Blockage can lead to indecisiveness, insecurity, overthinking, worry, and brain fog. Balancing this chakra can be achieved through positive affirmations, dream observation, meditation, and incorporating purple/indigo foods like purple carrots, beetroot, aubergine, and purple grapes. Additionally, writing down dreams and listening to messages can help open up the Third Eye Chakra.
What is the spiritual root of jealousy?
Jealousy and envy are negative emotions that stem from a person’s inability to appreciate God’s blessings and prosperity, which are the opposite of love. They are caused by a lack of thankfulness and constant comparison with others, low self-esteem, and a desire for status and attention. Risk factors include poor parenting, lack of intimate friendships, excessive time on social media, and a lack of intimacy with God.
To overcome these pitfalls, one must acknowledge that they exist in most people and ask God to reveal their motivations and feelings. After confessing this sinful attitude to Christ, the process of change can begin through the following five steps:
Which chakra imbalance causes jealousy?
The heart chakra, located at the heart and lungs, is linked to compassion, trust, passion, and love. It connects lower chakras to higher ones and is green in color and element air. In balance, it can cause anger, anxiety, jealousy, fear, and moodiness. Overactive heart chakras can lead to heart problems.
The throat chakra, Vishuddha, controls the neck, mouth, tongue, and other throat areas. Blue in color and ether, it is tied to self-expression, communication, and confidence. Balancing the throat chakra can regulate hormone flow and help positive inner thoughts be spoken.
The third eye, or Ajna, is between the eyebrows and represents intellect, intuition, wisdom, and spiritual power. It is often used in asana practice as a focal point.
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People may look at jealousy in a bad way, but it’s actually a struggle. An evil struggle. It hurts when you see someone getting what you want. For example, good grades, looks, relationship, wealth etc. In my case, it really hurts BIG time. To everyone suffering from jealousy, i’m sorry you had to go through this, and i hope we can together overcome jealousy.
I get jealous, but majority of the time I can shake it off very quickly. When I can’t, I find it makes it much better if I just admit I’m a bit jealous in a casual, laugh it off kind of way. My boyfriend thinks it’s flattering and he just holds me and tells me why he continues to date me. It’s not a crime to get jealous and I think the moment you get bitter or hold it in when it’s really bad, it becomes that much easier to blow things out of proportion.
I broke up with my boyfriend because of jealousy and insecurity. He works around a lot of women that hit on him and are good looking too. I just didn’t want to feel insecure all the time and feeling like I could always lose him. I wish I would’ve seen this article a while ago, I remember when I said that to him he told me “you don’t realize you have so many good qualities other women don’t” and then he proceeded to tell me very unique things about myself. Obviously it didn’t stick with me as I kept being insecure. Sad ending but I didn’t want us both to be affected by my insecurities, I have to work on it.
“And you know what? If someone still leaves me at that point, when I’m being all of those things, that really means that I can let them walk away with a good heart, knowing that this person wasn’t the person for me and that someone else was genuinely better for them,” PRICELESS…had to rewind that part a few times…touched my soul
Thank you SO MUCH. I have so may insecurities and often ask myself why my boyfriend stays with me when he can get someone “prettier”, or taller or sexier. And one day I told him this and he said “Stop trying to be like these other girls. Focus on what you have going on for you. You’re amazing. You’re everything I ever wanted.” And this just left me more confused. But now I finally understand. 🙂
Jealously comes when you feel like your efforts aren’t appreciated and you compare yourself to someone else’s who got their wants met. How I deal with this is acknowledging your feelings and just try to be more “positive”. Be the best YOU you can be. If that person rejected you for the hotter person or you didn’t get that job to a coworker. Do you care that the other person is hotter or do you care that they’re with the person you like so now you place you being less attractive as a reason to why they were chosen over you. We tend to turn vindictive and negative when we feel inferior to others. Currently struggling with this now but I get through it by knowing that something better is in store for me later. Sometimes a person might be better on the surface because of confidence, because they conduct themselves better and are more confident more people end up likening them. Find things that help you get your self confidence up so you don’t feel inferior. Maybe develop a style or get really good a a hobby/skill. Sometimes it’s better to go little by little than expecting everything to change overnight. Everyone’s personal growth is different.
You’re still competing with someone, though… Now you’re entering that competition as a package instead of a one trick pony and as you said that makes it harder for someone to beat you. But as long as you focus on beating people, you’ll always suffer because you’ll always be beatable. Stop comparing yourself with others and just try to be the best you can be.
This was exactly what I needed to hear and thank you, Matthew! Whenever I like a guy I feel jealous when he gives attention to another woman and start comparing myself to her. 😣 I won’t say anything to him but just keep it all inside. This is a great advice one I’ll try to practice it in the future .
I used to be a very jealous person!! But as I got older and am growing I realized that being jealous of someone is just blocking your own blessings. Spending all this time being jealous of someone is making them win regardless because you’re using your energy to be jealous when you could use that same energy to put into yourself! You just never know what someone is going through jealous is draining . We all have our own blessings that’s for us and not the next person!
Yes, the COMPETITION aspect is still major…and this is certainly an essence of jealousy!!! I think people should STOP comparing yourself to someone else, WE ARE ALL UNIQUE INDIVIDUAL, why should I envy, or being jealous of someone. I can have a desire for a dress, and hability, shoes etc., but not to the point of being jealous of it. WE ARE here on this planet to be the BEST YOU, that you can be…WORK on yourself to BECOME THAT BEST YOU….you will never be jealous of anybody…except YOURSELF, because YOU ARE TO THEM GREAT now ! 🙂 Enjoy the ride people!!
jealousy, it’s the hardest feeling for me in a so called relationship. I’m afraid that she might be happier when she’s with that guy than me, im afraid to lose her. everytime i get jealous, our conversation is being affected, im really trying hard to not get jealous and all when she’s with other guys but I can’t. This fear of losing her keeps on getting me all the time. . . 😔😓
Wow. I cant explain how much that article meant to me. I used to love myself when i was a teenager and somewhere between then and adulthood, i fell off. 😔 Im not quite sure how or why i became so critical and filled with self-hate. I didn’t like the person I had become. Jealousy was never really a big issue until a few years ago. What you said made me really think about the way I’ve been acting & portraying myself. I’ve been depressed, hateful, and nobody fun to be around. I always felt like everyone else was the issue, while I was the one who is negative and bringing everybody down. I lost all my friends and I’ve been pushing my boyfriend away. I feel like my eyes have been opened to the root of the problem. Now I can make the steps to change it. I can’t believe that I finally feel content in myself and have more confidence. I absolutely LOVEEEE yur words and they really hit home. Thank you so much for making this article. I don’t know if you will read this but I really appreciate your advice. ☺️
I needed to hear this right now. Seeing someone who I have complete trust with But my issue is my past with past failed relationships where the trust wasn’t always there And with this girl I’ve never felt so confident in someone that it started making me scared. Because this was the first time I’ve had the thought “it’s too good to be true” in the sense that she’s that loyal to the idea of US as a couple. Hearing these words definitely made me realize it’s all in my head and Hello! She chose me, she loves the way I make her feel, how I make her laugh and how I distract her even for a while when she’s having a bad day. I’m the one who makes her day better, and she does the same with me. I hope this article also helps someone in that moment of thinking she isn’t loyal to you. It’s really your mind playing tricks on you sometimes.
Some people have the whole package IN OUR EYES. I wouldn’t want to feel better based on the ways I am better at other things than them. I think the issue started before the person. It could be a deep root of not being secure in ourselves. We have things we want for ourselves and it’s uncomfortable when we see others have it. I want to speak to the person feeling jealous. Become thankful for who you’ve become despite the unique hurdles you’ve had to overcome. You may not or ever have certain things but no one could survive being you for one day. Not for one day. You were the only one that could live your life, experience trials and overcome and still come to youtube to learn how to overcome bad emotions. So you mean to tell me, after everything you’ve lost, felt, learnt and seen, you still want to get better? There is no one like you. I appreciate you very much for standing. ❤️
My insecurity has all but killed my relationship. I just couldn’t help myself but this article, it brought me to tears. Thank you so much for having made this article. It reminded me that in my jealous obsession about my body, I’ve let the ball drop on all those other aspects of myself that make me a good partner. I hope I have time to turn things around and save this relationship.
I was never a jealous person in my past relationships. I really love the guy i am with. yes he has hurt me before and broke a piece of my heart which things are better now and my heart has healed not going to lie it’s just a little bruised or maybe im brusing it because of jealousy. i am extremely jealous that i had to get off of fb, twitter and insta. perusal this article is making me think differently and be like fuck it, you know it’s true what matthew said. And i have alot of good to bring on the table. jealousy made me lose a part of who i am and i am looking foward to be me and bring back who i was who i truly am but better 🙂
I don’t really leave comments on articles but I’ll make this an exception. Thank you so much for this, I know that I may be 10 years late to the party but your advice is clearly as reliable as all those years ago. Me and my love recently communicated our dislikes of each other last night, amongst her dislikes of me was my jealousy issue. I would be driven crazy in my mind with things like seeing her talking to another guy and her saying she’d go to a restaurant with someone that wasn’t me. This article really did help me a lot and gave me a clear path to follow, she wants to be with me and I want to be with her- there’s nothing else in the world can change that. I know that sentiment should’ve been obvious from the start, but its better to be late than never, I’m just glad this article was made in the first place for me to realize it now.
I think people need to stop making jealousy such a negative thing. I have been jealous all my life, from when my dad played with other kids to my brother saying he wished he had a different little sister. I think jealousy is a normal emotion for humans and shouldn’t be made taboo or something we have to get rid of. We have to understand and control it but it isn’t something bad. It’s normal and I hate it that society has created this narrative that anyone who gets jealous must be a bad person or incomplete person. Just my thoughts on the matter. I talk very openly to my boyfriend about my jealousy and he is perfectly happy with me. Maybe it’s because I am being honest or maybe it’s because I’m not the type to key your car or something crazy. I think jealousy, comparing yourself to others, etc. are all reasonable and normal human experiences and we shouldn’t demonize them anymore.
I have been comparing myself to others for SO LONG. Because my parents has been unintentionally comparing me to other kids since I was little. This issue is getting worse and worse. It’s making me less confident, making me super anxious and affecting my overall well-being. I really hope one day I can be strong and confident enough to stop this. ✊
Even if a person is better than you in every sense that the society has projected, still it is no reason for people to leave each other. Love is not a barter system in which you love somebody because of some qualities they possess. You should love somebody unconditionally, even when they have committed a murder. True love is this…And love is not more or less for others. It is equal for every being on the planet.
Thank you so much for this! My last marriage ended in adultery after 22 years. That was 3 years ago. I have now met someone and we have been dating for a few months now. She is younger and has many friends and she spends lots of time with them. I know my feeling jealous is more about what happened in the past than what is happening now. Hearing this helped me so much. I am putting my all into this relationship and I am so happy it is going well. Insecurity sucks and reminding myself what all I bring to the table is going to kill the insecurity. Thanks again.
I giggled at the end of this and was like aye you right I am the total package! I don’t need to be jealous of another persons success when I’m successful in my own ways and I have everything that my husband loves and wants. Obviously he doesn’t want the jealousy but if that subsides and I let that go then really I am everything that is desirable for my husband. Wow! This diva is stepping out today! 🥰 embracing my inner star!! 🤩✨
I never had thought I would feel this jealous ever. I was always the type to look down on jealous couples and say in my head if you really love each other why not trust each other. Why is there jealousy at all? I just gotten into and now out of my first kind of relationship… and the feeling was terrible… It wasn’t anger but the feeling was this odd sick feeling in my gut. The feeling of fear, abandonment, and just a whole lot of knots in my stomach. These feelings kept me from sleeping, and even just being able to do other things in my normal life. I am not too sure what true depression feels like but I would say this has to be it… I am grateful to her… and I am glad I am out of this relationship because I think It was super unhealthy for me. I still miss her but I am learning and despite this awesome article and advice I don’t think jealousy and other emotions that get the better of us will immediately disappear. But we are all learning about ourselves. Just know to who ever reads the entirety of this… things will get better and it isn’t the end of the world! Maybe I haven’t found the one right now but I will someday at least I would like to hope so.
There is a person I have been feeling jealous around for the longest time. I think it is because she is liked by everyone and she is sweet and amazing, and I often wish I could be as kind as her. But I also do have a lot to offer, I am fun to be around, I am social and can make friends easily and I have a lot of passion for the things I love. Maybe I should stop comparing myself and remind myself that maybe I too bring something different, something she couldn’t do because she is not me. She is her, and I am me. When people tell me there will always be kinder people than me, I find it hard to take in because it feels so big. But hearing that I can develop in all of the areas I am good at, made me feel like I had the chance to be someone unique who can’t be compared to anyone because no one can ever be a second me, like everyone out there are unique too. It felt more calming to watch it from the perspective of what I am good at, because instead of putting myself down and feel ashamed for being jealous, I have just learned I focuses on the wrong sides of me as a person. I should focus on what I do well in and what I love and work on those things, rather than comparing myself to someone I will never fully know 100% either. Usually we never show ourselves fully to people, so maybe there are things I can do that she can’t, so I shouldn’t put myself down for not being like her, but remind myself I should be grateful for being my own person
Jealousy is for children. When you focus on someone else`s life….you`ll never be happy in your own life. I learned that one when I was about 14 or 15 and I find it really strange how many “adults” still struggle with this. Emotions like jealousy, hate, regret, stop people from evolving into better humans, they block the way to inner peace….the only really important “thing” in life (jmho). I wish everybody a very positive day…and many more thereafter 😊
How to Avoid feeling inferior: 1. Focus on the package you bring to the table (not the one aspect that the eother person is excelling) ● Instead of focusing on just excelling in one area, focus on diversifying that portfolio and saying you know what I’m goingbto be that person that brings so much to the table in every area. (In the amount that I inspire sb/ in amount of positive energy I bring to them/ in the amount of generosity I bring to/ on how much I complimemt them and make them feel great /in how much I spark their imagination and make them think about things they’ve never though about before/ in the amount that you travel them in new worlds that they haven’t discovered before…… Im gonna be that person that represents so many that it doesmt matter if the one person excels in one Category, they can never compete with all of the things that i am as an individual, as an entiretely.) * If sb leaves me when I am all those things, that really means that i can them walk away with a good heart knowing that this person wasn’t the person for me. *I think that point isn’t about jealousy is about logistics and two people that genuinely work together. Enjoy your relationships, and Focus on the package you bring to the table Extra notes: * Jealousy only exists by comparison *Jealousy comes when we feel inferiors
I like to think I’m growing and while doing some self reflection I’ve realized I have so much jealousy. And it made me so upset because I know that’s not who I want to be. In middle school I constantly found myself comparing and changing myself for other people- by doing so I lost myself. I’m glad I know that this jealousy isn’t what I want and I’m proud that I’m changing it to work towards a better me. Today I set a boundary because I felt uneasy and it turned out beautifully!! I’m so proud of myself. Edit: I love this advice because it reminds me to always try being the best version of myself and has taught me things I never even realized but I don’t want to continuously compete with people. So that’s what I’m working on.
I used to be very confident. I had a lot of trust in myself. I had good self-esteem, knew my self worth. I accepted who I am and my flaws. I didn’t compare myself that much, and I was comfortable in my own skin. After being cheated on with the person I trusted the most, everything, my self image, confidence, worth, everything just crumbled. I am VERY insecure now. I get so jealous easily. I don’t think I am enough. Trust issues was shot up so high. And I overthink, compare a lot. It caused so many complications with the next relationships I tried. I needed a lot of reassurance and validations. It’s really draining on my part and to whoever my partner is. And I wish I could just go back to who I was before but it’s so hard.
I think what’s very important is strengthening the emotional connection with our partners through different traits that lead to it. One can look at all the beautiful people out there but that will never cover for the emotional fulfillment a partner brings which has been developing over time. This brings me to work towards keeping the relationship interesting and not taking each other for granted as well. Is there a article on it? The area of jealousy is something I want to truly work on as it is a concern. Thank you for this article! It made me think differently.
Recently, I encountered a scripture in the Bible somewhere in Luke, about how there’s no room for jealousy in the kingdom of God so now I’m on this journey of identifying, Processing, deciphering, analyzing and crucifying this jealousy for greater peace of mind and connection to our Jesus Christ and Heavenly Father. Holy Spirit and peace be with us all. ❤ we got this.
The other aspect Matthew is the fact that partners care about each other for many reasons. It’s complex. She doesn’t just love you because of your body and eyes and hair. She sees value in multiple areas of your life, from honesty to humility, or from work ethic to calmness during chaos. So if you do feel a tinge of jealousy towards a relationship ‘threat’, remember there’s far more reasons you are together than the one area you feel you are deficient’ at.
So well said, I have been struggling with jealousy for a very long time. And it ruined my previous relationship in some extent. Now I am in a new relationship where I would like to get rid of jealousy and I think I am doing quite well now. I no longer get upset when she is around other guys. Your article reinsure my mind, really inspiring. I hope I can keep it going!!
I’m a 34 year old woman I and never used to feel envy or jealous of other people’s wealth, holidays and happy memories. But now I’m starting to feel these feelings and it’s new to me. It makes me sad that I missed out on so much growing up compared to people who get to go to places like Dubai and party with friends. I hope these feelings go away somehow as I get older. I think it’s because I was a carer for my mother since my teens, so I never got to gain a career or financial independence. 😔 💔
Thank you!!! Great to hear male perspective on jealousy..Words spoken resonating in truth deflect and deflate any feelings of jealousy. No competition when you are showing up as your best self to others every day. “Focus on the package you bring to the table” and, I like to add, invoke self-care rituals if you happen to feel less than. Do things that make you happy and shine brightly. Spend time with people who bring out your best qualities and get you tf out of your head!!
You get jealous, no matter how good you are to your guy, no matter how funny. Awesome. Money you give. Sex etc. If they see someone else who is “attractive.” They are going to look, especially!.. If “that attractive girl” is better looking than you are. He is not thinking about how sweet, funny, compassionate or generous towards him, she is. Because he hasnt even interacted w her. Other than eye contact & how it shows on his face how pretty he thinks she is. Now, of course hes going home with you, but for however long it took him to lust over her the whole time he was with you, he was NOT thinking of “you’. He was FANTASIZING about another girl. Not her person. Her looks! & this!!! is why some of us are justified in our jealousy. Total disregard that you are there for the time that it took him to lust over a girl within eyesight. Sure he loooooves you & thinks you are good looking…but, at that moment someone else caught his eye even if he denys it. & that is why jealousy is so hard to overcome on both sides of the relationship. Im sorry but I feel betrayed if my guy stares at girls in the same way as when I’m betraying my guy, while Im perusal Ryan gosling throwing alley on the bed h wishing it was me! Haaa
I think there’s more to jealousy than insecurity. I consider myself a 10 inside & out and don’t feel less than any other woman- however- I’m in an open monogamish relationship and when I see him get really close to certain women I feel jealous. It feels painful at times and I have to dig deep and figure out where it comes from. I’m thinking old patterning of ownership or needing to feel respected in a way. 🤔
A friend of mine claims that there will ALWAYS be someone BETTER than me/you….After this article, I REFUSE to believe it. Why? We are a collection of zillions of characteristics, it is statistically impossible one person to be better than you in ALL of these characteristics. No one is better than me/you. Just DIFFERENT. Hard to absorb at first, because comparison runs in our veins, but once we figure it out, we can start improving ourselves for us alone, NOT for competing with others.
I hadn’t felt jealous in long time but past few days I was so bothered by this emotion…I was actually surprised that I could get this miserable. I searched for help, went through several articles on YouTube, none of them convinced me but I finally found the convincing answer. I feel lighter now…. Thank you so much
Thank you for this. I have been in a struggle the past week with this jealousy of my girlfriend hanging around another guy. We have been open about how we are feeling but it seems like that is not enough. What I have seen are the faults within myself, and how I need to improve my outlook and trajectory of life to be a better man for her and myself.
I think the solution isn’t to focus on beating someone by maintaining more categories than they are, it’s to realize that people just aren’t comparable because we’re all unique. There will never be another you. Your combination of categories is completely unique, and you may have things in common with another person, or they may have things u don’t have, but it doesn’t matter because you’re both your own unique combination.
I think jealousy not comes as you compare but rather when you observe the practical stuffs like ur loved ones giving lot value to someone else.I mean, I dont really get jealous by just seeing good looking ppl around rather i appreciate their beauty.And as you told, think on more wider perspective..i did so but then the ques pop in — why still than my loved one attracted to that person if i m above him/her on wider scale ?.. How tackle this kinda thought ?
My jealousy became my sickness…i can’t handle it. Sometimes i imagine things that don’t even happen… If someone texts my gf i’ll be jealous,if she talks to a guy i’ll be jealous,if guys get too close to her i’ll be jealous….. The thing is that my jealousy annoys me too much now because i broke up with my gf and i get mad for no reason. I need some f*cking help
Everyone is so beautiful and unique… jealousy is so ugly 🥺 it just makes room for hate 💔 looking at everyone in the comments we all suffer insecurities… but what you don’t realise is that everyone has something beautiful about them 🥰 just be confident in yourself and don’t hate others for their own beauty ❤️
You just saved me so much stress and anxiety. I don’t know how to thank you enough besides subscribe and like the article!! I have the WORST jealousy in the world. And it’s so strange for many different reasons. Ive never been jealous or had jealousy issues like I do with this man. I’ve been with my boyfriend for a little over three months now, and he has a girl best friend. And it’s not one of those girl best friends who likes him, and I know there’s nothing and will never be anything there. But I overthink like crazy, and, get scary jealous of any attention he gives her at all (even though it’s just them having a simple convo about random stuff). Although I don’t say anything to him bc I’m scared he’ll get mad at me. And of course I was comparing my body to hers…. She’s skinny and has all the right curves and I have curves too but I’m not as skinny as her. Or as short. But when you started to talk about other attributes, I realized yeah she has those qualities but she’s nowhere near as kind as I am. Or as sweet and loving as me. I have prettier eye lashes too and other things. And focusing on that and realizing how much those qualities outweigh her body any day (per my opinion) is all that matters. Plus I am deeply and totally in love with him. And I can feel it in my soul that he feels the same for me. And the reason I know this is true is because out of the couple serious relationships I’ve been in before him, I can say with complete truth that I haven’t felt in my soul that I’m going to be with them for the rest of my life like I do with this man.
I mean the message that he implies still relates with the fact of competing to someone. Not in one category but characteristics overall. That is still a concept for a race and a vast one for that. My advice is “there’s always gonna be somebody better than you” and you’ve probably heard this in many scenarios for consolation but it is the best way. Do not compete to begin with. Stay humble. Your ego is what you have built for the past idk how many years you’ve lived with it, you can still change the process. Good luck ✌️
I wish this article helped me, but it really didn’t… I don’t feel jealous by comparison unfortunately… I feel jealous because, well, my girlfriend and I are going through a rough time right now, we’re so distant, and I see her play with her friends, and there’s one of her friends that my brain just doesn’t like him for some reason, they are like really close to each other and so, I’m just afraid that she’ll eventually leave me because of how distant we are, and that she’ll find a better relationship with him…
I think the key thing is, meet someone who doesn’t make you feel jealous because otherwise all your trying to do is cure yourself from there bad behaviour, when you find a good person who has respect and treats you how they expect in return, then jealousy becomes a thing of the past from being with someone who’s core values don’t align with your own.
You know what’s funny? I have always struggled with jealousy issues. I always knew basically what this guy said in the article; that I shouldn’t compare myself to others, my partner’s not gonna leave me for someone else just because a few of their qualities are better, etc etc. However, even though I “knew” this, I believe in my subconscious, I still somehow doubted it. And I always used to get so damn mad at myself because I could not understand why I was still struggling with jealousy. Then this article comes along and after perusal it, all of a sudden it seems that the jealousy is cured. I think that, although I knew these facts at face value, the back of my mind still wasn’t convinced, and perusal this article managed to calm my subconscious. I don’t know about any of you, but for me I think coming from my insecure self, these facts meant nothing. But coming from somebody else, it totally changed my perspective.
I’ve never experienced jealousy in a relationship until recently, and this advice really helps. I was with someone for almost 2 years and we broke up in February, mostly because I needed space to focus on things. A lot has happened since then and we decided to get back together recently and we’re very happy together, it’s just taking some time to build what we had back up but we both understand the steps we need to take for that. The only real difference between our last 9 months is that I didn’t hook up with anybody since then, but she did- one was a friend, and one was a fling who she thought she liked but realized in retrospect that she didn’t, and it was because of the fling that she decided she couldn’t be with someone who wasn’t me. I’m not jealous of the friend, and I never felt jealous of him even when my girlfriend and I were together because she knew him for a long time, and we were never jealous of each other’s friends. But for some reason, I’ve been feeling a bit of jealousy and resentment towards the fling, mostly because he was kinda emotionally manipulative to her in one instance. I know she was trying to get over me and she put herself in that situation but felt 100% safe in her actions, but for whatever reason, this fling she had really bothers me mostly because he wasn’t as nice to her as he should have been. I have no ill will towards her other friend, but I’ve been feeling a large wave of jealousy for the first time in my life over this. It’s strange.
Shit i watch this in 2020 and this article really helps me to ease my current anxiety due to irrelevant jealousy. See my boyfriend and I have this “perfect” relationship to my friends’ eyes since they see us capable to consistently love each other, having only once in a while fights & just being far from the toxic traits in a relationship. I am assured that my boyfriend rly loves me for who I am. Little did everyone & my boyfriend acknowledge that I haven’t truly healed and learned from my past relationship when it comes to jealousy. I feel the immense need to be prioritized, and I get this really uneasy feeling inside of me when he’s close to his female friends. They’re all gorgeous & simply talented in their own ways. I feel very talentless although I feel like I’m confident in my body, funny, and great at making my mans happy. See comparison really is a thief of joy because I started to grow insecure and sad and quite sometimes, I’m making him pay for this toxic traits. Now I realized the most important thing to note here, that I need to be able to understand that any girl could beat me in a lot of categories yet they could never be the person my boyfriend really loves. Goodluck to every “jealous but aware of a better change” girlfriends/boyfriends out there ❤️ It’s 2020 lets all leave the toxic trait behind
Thank you for the explanation and yes, we need to free ourselves from this spirit of jealousy, which is of no use to having it. We are all blessed in different ways and that is why we are better for ourselves, without comparing ourselves to anyone because nobody is like oneself. We can share our different blessings with others with no jealousy and this makes us all better. We need to understand this.
i’ve always been jealous of seeing my boyfriend liking other better-looking girls’ photos on social media and seeing him looking at pretty girls whenever we go out. i always compare myself to those girls thinking if my boyfriend wants me to be like those girls, physically. i get so jealous and insecure but i know i can’t keep bringing that up cause we’ll start arguing and i hate to argue with him 😢 i’ve always tried to learn how to control my self from being irrationally jealous. and perusal this article gives me hope and calms me down 😊 thanks Matthew!!
I came home absolutely fuming after a 14 hour shift at work. For context, my girlfriend works with me and a new worker came in at the start of the week and from my point of view, they have been hitting it off. He flirts with her, she flirts back. It’s been killing me over the past week and today the fear semi-confirmed itself when he said they were calling each other all night before work. This article has helped calm me down so much, and I’m going to talk to her after her shift is over today. I’m pretty certain what the outcome may be, but I think this article has helped me cope with my feelings and I should be able to atleast end things on a good note and just be happy that we just were never compatible and somewhere out there is our perfect fit. Like or comment if you want to know the outcome, I’ll comment it as a reply in about 10-12 hours after this post because that’s when her shift ends and she’s coming over.
This really helped. I researched voice acting for this passion project we had to do in school. I ended up feeling bitter and jealous of voice actors to the point that I felt awful when I was playing my favorite games with voice actors in them. This article was really amazing for reminding me to not compare myself to people who have had loads of practice and experience in voice acting, with many much older than me.
We can’t eradicate jealousy – it’s a normal human emotion. Just like love. We as humans have all kind of emotions from “negative” to positive but they are valid and it’s not possible to eliminate them. We can learn to handle jealousy better and make sure it doesn’t affect us to the point of big upset or harm on to the other. We can talk ourselves out of jealousy by increasing self love and self worth ❤ We can distance ourselves from the very jealous ones who drain us energetically and we can watch our own feelings and keep them in check. As long as this World of duality exists, there is always going to be opposites : love, hate, admiration – jealousy and so on.
Very good advice, and it does motivate me but to let someone walk away when you love and care so much for them and you know you can’t live without them in your life. I can’t think of that at all. I know that it’s very dangerous to think of someone like that because it can kill you mentally but you just want that person to be around for ever and to always show so much interest in you as you do to them. Idk please reply somebody and let’s genuinely talk about this
I think the best attitude to have in that case is the I don’t give a f… attitude. And if something gets to you, acknowledge what it is, if it is a weakness think how you can transform it into a strength and then get on with life and turning the weakness into a strength. What I’ve learned is that every step in life is a lesson, so every weakness we can perfect it into our own liking and the way we want it
I dig the insight and a diff way to look at it but this does seem to reinforce more competitionand comparison, on another level, when you run into someone that offers everything you offer just like that one thing you thought u had that was great. However, I am inspired about this topic and am gonna make a article to share a diff perspective that is rooted in spirituality vs competition as I feel like I’ve discovered a perspective for me that allowed me to overcome my jealousy and on the flip side, most guys, rich or poor, are now insecure around me even though I’m skinny as heck, 43 years old, and relatively broke in a financial sense. If you have no money and no material things and still feel godly and in love with yourself, your experiences, along with all those around you, I believe that’s when you’re truly full and not jealous vs trying to up your worth/skills and still comparing yourself with others on that similar level. Thanks again for this topic despite as jealousy is one of the hardest thing, even more than financial lack some times, to overcome. 🙏
Well this was about just being compatable as much as possible. He talked about how you can you use develop qualities not for yourself and to make your life better but rather just be better than other instead. But I think jealousy stops with centralization of focus.Rather than trying to be beat the other person, seee what he is doing, you just focus on yourself and your life Everyone have thir own life. THEIR own goals, challenges and priorities You life become much better and you become not so jealous person once you recognize what your main goals,challenges and priorities are and focus on them just to make your life better for yourself. You become better, unbotherable once you learn the art of minding your own business .Setting your own goals and targets … That’s how you my friends beat jealousy by making your life little better everyday for yourself
I don’t have any experience in relationships b4 but the moment I entered a rs it started this inner insecurity of mine. I didn’t know all along I keep comparing myself and even my current relationship. Suddenly everything make sense and clear. My inner turmoil has gone. Thanks to u. Yeah I should focus on myself to be the best version of who I am
Hit me deep af. I think the reason is comparison but the most evil deepest reason is our ego that tells us we have to be the best in smth or everything. Ofc its good to try to be the best version of yourself, but in order to ever fucking relax you gotta tell yourself that you dont have to be the best. That you are GOOD ENOUGH. And here you‘ll find real peace.
Humans look at everything through competition. This is not true overcoming of jealousy. This is simply teaching us to find or image something somebody else lacks so we don’t feel jealous. The real struggle is just simply be happy for someone. Because like this logit states, there will always be someone better than you at something. So that means that there are always going to be people that just beat you at everything imaginable. So what do you do then? Exacly. It comes to the point where eventually we will have to learn happiness for others, rather than coping mechanisms for jealousy.
wow, your words entered my heart and mind you really convinced me that there is always will be someone who is prettier smarter..etc than me.. you choice whethere to foucse on that thing and compare your self where you put your self in alower posittion. try to give the best of you to be the someone how inspire and pring possitive energy, generosity, complement that makes me feel better about my self and i wont foucse on others people features.
I get jealous about business competition/comparison. I am running along with a number of people who are building the same business. For some strange reason, I feel so much pain when I see them succeeding and I am not. This turns into so much hate against myself and negative self-talk, which leads to anxiety. I appreciate you all for reading this message and would love your support and perspective.
No one is perfect, everybody has issues, the person you’re jealous of right now, might have cancer, might be in a tougher situation than you!! Don’t let the appearance or materialistic stuff get to you, it’s just an illusion. Let God be in control of your rage and envy, love thy neighbor. All that doesn’t matter when you have God in your heart ♥️ Some people don’t have anything:( Always be thankful in prayer.
I always work hard to show off in so many areas. Psychology. Technology. Knowledge. Wisdom. Spirituality. Culture. Arts. Literature. Music. Dressing well. Cooking well. Staying clean and neat. I can get in good shape, a good job, a good place for myself. I can be funny. I can be serious. I can take you anywhere you like, I can explain you what you don’t understand. I can listen to you. Just stay put. I can keep quiet about my inner turnmoil in order not to disturb you. I can ask meaningful questions. I can give meaningful answers. But did I really do all of this for me, or just as a way to get you (or anyone else that could replace you in any context) interested in me? It all feels so pointless and sketchy. You look around and see plenty of people who either don’t have many of these skills, or they apparently don’t put any effort in “improving all areas”, and yet they are loved. Often you work so very hard just to see someone else effortlessly pluck what you’ve invested so much time and energy into, and all you can do is sit there and stare silently, telling yourself it doesn’t matter, it doesn’t hurt. Live and let live. It doesn’t hurt. It doesn’t hurt. In the long run, it eventually stops hurting.
“Someone will always beat you in one category. So, go enjoy your relationship, focus on the package you can bring to the table for the relationship.” “Someone can never compete with who I am as an entirety” “If someone still leaves me at that point when I’m being all of those things that really means that I can let them walk away with a good heart knowing this person wasn’t the person for me and that someone for them is genuinely better for them. At that point, it’s not about jealousy, it’s about logistics and two people that genuinely work together.” I want to write the whole script and read it every single day. I am going through a situation where my partner is an Avoidant type and she just does not make up her mind about us. It is like being in a rollercoaster. I guess, sooner or later we will end the relation and part ways.
always be kind to your lover or lovers, even when there mean, be kind, jealousy is not something we should embrace, be honest with your partner, let your partner spend time with people and feel comfortable spending time with them even if your not lovers, have the value of appreciateing your time on earth and theres, dont hate someone when they loved you instead appreciate them, find a way to love your memmories with that person, listen to frank sinatra and old love music hits, rnb, hip hop, jazz, rock, heavy rock, funk guitar music whatever floats your boat, have the hope that if your lover changed and if youve changed then that is beautiful, every good change is beautiful, love art, appreciate anime and manga, listen to music, look at movies you dont usually watch or do, comics too, have hope in yourself, and if someone does break up with you have strength, its not always about how we feel on the outside its also the inside that counts, you have to see yourself as beautiful enough to acknowledge that there will always be someone to find you attractive, maybe that person you like will be back later if they found you loveable enough, be loveable, realize that your love is your adventure and be kind to that, if someone doesnt love you enough they might, you get the kindness you give back, always remember that.
i had this same realization one day. i was someone who was fiercely jealous. it was fuckin me up. then i met someone who changed my life. my best friend Trinity. i was a girl who’d say “blah blah blah i hate girls” 🙄 cringe and if i was in the room with girls, i instantly assumed my territorial angst was shared. wouldn’t acknowledge them much. but then i had the beginning of what i can only explain as an ego death. realization of how lacking i was in depth, self awareness, courtesy, generosity, etc made me want to run away from being the selfish shallow little bitch id been existing as, and actually trying to act in the best interest of anyone who’d be directly influenced by my actions. exercises
I’ve been so jealous of my older brother for i think 5 6 years since the time i was a teenager and when i had this meltdowns my mom wouldn’t understand them and try to comforts me but she would for my brother and always would make excuses for him but not me. And when i lost all my friends and i didn’t have the chance to go to college and became empty and lonely, i had started again feeling jealous. My brother has tons of friends whom he goes with every night while i sit at home because i don’t have anyone. And he also has a wonderful college life. I do not blame him for any of these. But somtimes he makes bad comments about how some people just sit at home without trying to make friends and build a social life. I really hate when he does that, i try my best to have friends, but i always fail, he doesn’t know the amount of disappointment and self-hate i feel everytime i befriend somone and they stab me in the back. He doesn’t understand. I blame my mother for this. She comparing me to him when we were little made me jealous of him. It is all her fault, not mine. I really hate being jealous, it makes me hate myself. I hope one day i will get over it.
Its not always about competing and focusing on what all you bring to the table, being the package, no, if someone is good maybe they are actually good as you are are, kind as you are maybe you both are same, equally genuine. What’s harm in accepting the world can have all good people in it, positive, good looking, kind, generous. Its not always and ONLY you. Moreover, why get jealous when what you deserve, destiny will always bring it to you.
I brought nothing to the table, and that is what made me feel constantly inferior. I was broke, unemployed, I lived with my parents, I had no freedom, nothing all I brought for him was some peace of mind, that was taken away when I started getting jealous all the time. Now he is gone, he regrets nothing cause he had nothing to lose. But I lost a gem, I will never meet someone like that ever again.. right person, wrong time, I should have learnt to control my jealousy earlier.. at my age I am ashamed.. I lost him now and I m suffering
I got a crazy story… Gave online dating a try a bit more than a year ago… Met a guy who pretended to be from somewhere else, faked and accent and everything… he ended up telling me half the story (saying he was 1/2) but still pretended to have that accent. I didn’t understand, but said he had fallen for me and it was just something that got out of hand, and I also had feelings for him at that point. His mom had left the country (that I do have proof of) for months and when she finally came back, we met each other at the park to watch him play a game (he played soccer), didn’t take more than 5-10min, for her to accidentally reveal him and all his lies including the damned accent. I tried to play it off and not make a scene since if wasn’t his poor mother’s fault. I confronted him about it when we got back to his house (since I had some stuff there), and broke up with him. Again, said it was a stupid lie he made up to amuse himself bc he didn’t think he’d seriously meet anyone. So, it was just something that had gotten out of hand. I broke up with him, but he begged and begged and apologized and said he loved me (mind you we had spoken about even possibly living together in the future). We kept sort of seeing each other (yep, I’m the dumb one at this point), and within the month I found a pair of dirty woman underwear in a drawer in his closet… when I confronted his ass he said it was from before he met me, but even if it was, I could tell he had opened that drawer in the time we dated and put other random stuff in there (that he got in the time he was with me) so even if it was the truth, he decided to keep that shit in there.
Anybody can be smarter than you… Anybody can be more handsome than you… Anyone can be more funnier than you… Anyone maybe more stylish than you…Anyone can be better than you in any category buttt heyyyy youu ! The one reading this…! Remember… Your Girlfriend or your boyfriend doesn’t love anyone more than youuu…❤… You are the best ! Its alright sweet hearts… Lets do this 😊❤
You can feel inferior and not be jealous. You can be jealous and not feel inferior. You never even touched on the true foundation for jealousy. Yes, an inferiority complex can contribute. But it is not the heart of the problem. The thing that ALWAYS causes jealousy is distrust. Because, if you trust your significant other, you don’t have to feel inferior! You don’t have to worry about whether that better looking guy or woman can steal your significant other away! Distrust is a cancer that feeds low self esteem! And it eventually causes relationships to fail – for nothing – once the inferiority complex begins inventing cheating scenarios. Distrust is the fuel, while the inferiority complex is the match. When trust exists, the match has nothing to ignite!
when i was a little girl, i am from SEA, my mom always and i mean always compared me to another girl who has fairer and whiter skin than me (i have dark tan skin which i inherited from my father whom she hated and divorced). she always complimented girls with straight nose cute beautiful faces and fair white skin but never ever she said so to me or anything positive about me so i ended up hating every girl who has fairer whiter skin than me i even hate girls with more beautiful cuter looking face than me, then at one point in my life i found my turning point and courage to actually looked into the mirror and thought that i am not that ugly i am not that hideous i do not have that midnight skin it was just my mom who kept giving out negative bad toxic vibes which killed my self esteem and self love and from that point on i do not seek her approval about anything on my body and i started to care for my skin and love myself and accept myself and for those who do not want to accept whatever on my body that God Himself blesses me with, can go have a talk with God Himself about why He gave me all of this (points to myself). i am now 30 and still repairing and improving my self esteem.
Interesting!!! Not one category that is more important than you…focus on diversifying your portfolio. Good 💡! Represent so many things, it’s ok if someone excels, at something better then you, because you’re bringing a lot more…if that someone leaves you, it’s logistics, maybe that someone is better with that other person…opening a door for you to excel with someone else. Only compare yourself to whom you were yesterday! No one else
I love the article, and it really is meant to help. I just want to mention though. No one’s jealous until that person who makes them feel like a complete shit, like “you’re SO bad that I’m this mean” kind of things, because there comes that point you start to really doubt yourself. Also being jealous while one already had a lot going on for them is completely different from being jealous while one doesn’t have a lot. Question becomes is it a self-assured fake confidence because to me, “overcoming” jealousy actually looks like a very passive, settling-in-reality kind of approach. Maybe it actually helps. Jealousy is so hard because one can improve skills but one can’t really improve how they look, and how their personality is wired. You know, there’re just things that no matter how hard I try it just seems impossible but then my bf or whoever is super mean and is making me feel like I have to change that in order to be with him and that, is quite some powerplay right there. Also- let’s try this analogy. Let’s say you have a client. Client constantly comes up to you and say “hey I just got a deal from this other person” “hey look at that other company they know how to treat clients right!” Like what kind of power-play is that? Do you want to serve a client like that? My ex used to say how he used to have a big crush on someone and who’s pretty and what’s his ideal girl type etc etc and I’m “good for a relationship but not really for a marriage” like what kind of a person says that?
ik probably no one will see this but i am currently in a relationship with my beautiful gf that i love with my everything and i really struggle with jealousy even the littlest thing will set me off and i really have been trying to work on it but the problem is i overthink so much and people say then just stop overthinking but like i can’t just stop i overthink about literally everything and i don’t wanna push my gf away because i want her to be in my future and i wanna make her the happiest i can make her but i just don’t know what to do cause ik she would never do anything to hurt me but at the same time i think like what if she does one time and she’s just not happy with me she literally gives me zero reason to think this way i’m just kind of lost and i have really bad trust issues because my mom lies to me about everything and she’s been doing drugs and idk i just think i don’t deserve a relationship if i’m just going to be jealous all the time and not able to trust the person i love most in this world but i want to be happy and i’ve been struggling with bad depression and idk i just am lost and don’t know what to do lol thx for listening if anybody see this
I’m so jealous of my seventeen-year-old sister, because she’s about to become a senior in high school and is thinking about a university in this big city. I graduated high school at 20, because of my learning disability, speech delay in preschool, and homeschooling. I’m on the autism spectrum. So naturally, I hate thinking about how she’s doing so much better than I was. I graduated from college sure, but it was the one in my hometown. Quite frankly, I don’t know if I would’ve been able to get around in a big city and college there. One of the main reasons I picked the college in my town is to stay at home. I’ve always been the “accommodated guy,” because of my disabilities. I still live at home, at 27, because of my income and whatnot. I’m starting to wonder, am I incapable of living in another city/state, if I wanted to leave where I am now? Is it always best I stay in my familiar town, for the sake of safety and the greater good, as a learning-disabled guy? Does my learning disability and ASD automatically keep me from going beyond my supposed limits? My boss won’t even let me work a shift alone, claiming I need someone to guide me. The newers workers don’t have that rule. And more importantly, under my personal circumstances, how do I end my jealous toward my non-disabled, more capable sister? I feel like she’s better than me. Maybe the concept of “better than you/me” does exist after all.
People get not only jealous because they are comparing themselves to others… Jealousy is triggered much more by broken trust in the first place. If there didn’t something happen, that somewhat made you lose a fraction of trust in your partner, then why would you get jealous? With trust there is no jealousy. Now a better way to cope with that is: not comparing the past to your present. It’s usually not the same person that triggers your jealousy but the familiarity to a bad memory. To me it was the moment my trust was just once broken. I took that same ecact feeling out on a female friend of my bf without notice and dragged the baggage of the past and threw it onto our present. It’s like trying to fit a piece of a dog puzzle into a lizard puzzle :D. I stopped doing that or remind myself of that correlation. For me that way it’s easier to calm down, rather than putting myself on a pedestal to feel superior.
You know what. Its been my phenomenon any time a guy even remotely tried comparing me with any other woman. Cos i have worked on everything abt me. I apply “kaizen” “continuous improvement ” to every part of my life and i challenge them. Anyone can be better than me in one category but just one, not even 2….forget the whole package i am. I was like where did u hear me to echo this!!!!!
Here’s what helped me…The Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer is a book that helps with…life! He explains why we think the way we do. This book was a game changer for me! Michael Singer has a lecture series available on Audible and YouTube about his book. It can stand alone and I think is even better than the book. SUPER helpful!
I do like this, but I also feel like it’s still playing into the insecurity of not being better. It’s having to be great in some way. This does help, because I can’t help but want to be better or be great in some way, but I think there could be another good way of looking at it. I like looking at how I view other people – how I view the people I love. They all have their shortcomings and things that they’re awful about. They all have things that they’re great at. Some of them aren’t even that great at the things they’re great at, but they’re important in my life and I love them. I imagine some people feel the same about me. If anything, I’d like to feel the same about me
What about jealousy when it comes to identity and self-concept. Like I’m not sure who I am and what I really like. I end up being uninterested and/or love/hate everything. And people I want to be friends and connect with (who I think are decent people), may not have it all figured out, but they have interests, play and love all the sorts of article games way more than I do, knows their interests, used their quarantine time well, watches way more movies and tv shows than I do on Netflix, doesn’t overthink and nit pick at certain things, and so on. All I have done during quarantine time and during the last 10 years is waste time on my phone and internet mindlessly browsing, jumping around to the same damn songs, wasting my time (bad time management), and procrastinate my life, and have been nothing but inconsistent when it comes to what I want and like, and applying good advice and habits to my life. What do I do?
Ive been jealous for most of my life. Mostly because I feel like my life is so unfulfilling and lonely. I have Ive never felt like I really belonged in a group. Most of my days were spent laying on my bed in the dark looking at youtube. Looking at other people living life and trying to dream of a brighter future while living though other people by perusal other people live my dreams. Daydreaming has always been my main coping mechanism and it is a horrible coping mechanism when done in the extreme. It drains you more than it protects you but still you cant stop. Uncomfortable feelings are what are the most familiar to be so those are the feelings are the easiest for me to feel. Ive felt like my life is so boring and meaningless that crying for hours and not being able to properly breathe has felt better than my best days which were kinda happy. Because at least I felt alive, at least it couldnt get much worse and at last I could let my feelings out.
I’ve never been a jealous person that word doesn’t even exist in my vocabulary… There is no reason to compare and there is no reason to contrast But in all of reality there is no reason to be jealous If you don’t stand out Then you don’t stand out If you aren’t on their level then your not on their level But in all of reality I don’t believe in competition. I don’t want to be anybody else because I love myself and I wouldn’t trade myself in the world for anything.
I get jealous and insecure since my guy started his first job and it feels like he gets to spend more time with girls there than me and it sucks because ik it’s not right on my part, it’s not mature. Yet I can’t help it. I keep thinking what if he likes them better and get closer with them because they spend more time. I get anxious when he mentions a girl’s name or any one girl being mentioned more times. Jealousy and insecurity really sucks even more when you know your partner won’t hurt you and gives you are best. Yet you feel the jealousy
My boyfriend has a very specific type and he follows and likes photos of girls that look like that it hurts because I feel like I’m not satisfying him and I’m just not enough. It also makes me angry cause he doesn’t think about me and how I would feel and I literally have no eyes for anyone else but him. It’s sad he doesn’t feel the same but I know it’s what I deserve. I just don’t know if im overthinking it or he’s hurting my self esteem